Anvil Ministries E7: Fight Club Series- Keeping up with the Joneses

Anvil Ministries E7: Fight Club Series- Keeping up with the Joneses.

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Intro song: (Modified) “Corporate World” by The Dust Brothers

Welcome- Hello, and Welcome to the Anvil Podcast E7!
Last week we started this new series on Fight Club. If you havnt already – Check out last weeks episode.

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This series is sponsored by Anthology Church.

This weeks episode we are continuing…
Lessons from the cult classic movie Fight Club.

So far in this series we’ve talked about – Memento Mori, and the dangers of safe sanitized living. This week we are going to talk about Keeping up with the Jones’s

Before we get into the topic for today there is a challenge for you. I want to you focus on one thing for the rest of this series. Or about 4 weeks depending on when you came into the PC.

One thing that you would like to change. One thing that is holding you back from living the life that God wants for you. Just one. If you have no idea what that one thing is, go back and E4. That should bring some clarity.

Focus on that over these next few weeks. Pray about it daily. Talk about it with others in your life. Just one thing. Don’t get distracted with more then one. Just pick one, and commit yourself to it.

With that lets get into it…

One of the first scenes in FC is Edward Norton’s character sitting on the toilet looking at an IKEA catalog like a playboy magazine. His existence, and his self value was wrapped up in stuff. In things he could control. Although this is an exaggeration, the simple truth is clear. As men we struggle with Keeping up with the Joneses.

Stuff. What’s interesting about stuff, is that it can be a stuff magnet. If we are not careful, it can begin to own us. Example- a car. Care, maintenance, gas, insurance, etc.

Ultimately, stuff carries a greater burden. A nicer car means more expensive repairs, a bigger home means more square feet to keep clean, more stuff means infinitely more clutter and stress. There are costs for everything — it’s not like quality of life automatically goes up as the number and quality of things you own increases.

As our narrator above notes, you get caught up in having the perfect tidy little life. It even starts with good intentions — you just want a nice sofa. But then you need the matching tables, and matching carpet, and expensive art prints to go with it all. And all of a sudden, as the narrator observes, your stuff ends up owning you versus the other way around.

Things or not, it can also be things to do, or achieve, or a person.

It becomes about control. We BS ourselves into this state of if I have these things, I control them, if I control them, I control part of my life. It is all an illusion.

God owns it all, and controls it all. Now He has given some of that control to us, but it is critical in how we use it.

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You see we live in a world that lies to us all. It tells us that if we have things of value, we have value. The obserdity of that is ridiculous, but most of us buy it – no pun intended.

You see God owns it all. He defines it all. Our value as people, as men can only be defined by Him. Because He is the standard in which all things are measured and defined.

Now if you’re not really sure what that means, or if you believe that – I’d invite you to check out our website to see a little bit more of what Anvil is all about. We are also completely funded on donations from people like you. So if you find some value in this, or in what Anvil is doing in the lives of men – Give. $20 a month 18 months.

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Anthology Chuch – Great place in Menifee, CA. Newer church, so lots of opurtunities to get involved. For more info about Anthology Church check out their website Anthology.Church (not .com, or .org. .church)

Back into topic-
God owns it all, and controls it all. Now He has given some of that control to us, but it is critical in how we use it.

1 Cor 10:26 AMP
“For the [whole] earth is the Lord’s and everything that is in it.”

Ps 50:12 AMP
“…for the world and its fullness are Mine.”

Ps 24:1 AMP
“THE EARTH is the Lord’s, and the fullness of it, the world and they who dwell in it.”

So what is it that you “need”? And what it is that you actually need? I’ll give you a hint, it isn’t stuff.

Now when we look at this word “need”, in the Bible we hear a more common word – coveting.

Greek and Hebrew here.

Desire. To zealously seek after. To set your eyes upon. To delight in. To stretch ones self. To reach out after.

Both good and bad things to desire. Your one thing.

What happens to our heart when we covet good things, and bad things? Our lives, and the lives of those around us.

Say out loud “when I covet good things, or bad things, it greatly impacts my life, the lives of those around me.”

Take responsibility for that. Like it or not God made us as men – as leaders, which means others will follow you.

Why do we covet bad things? Our flesh.

Gal 5:17 AMP
“For the desires of the flesh are opposed to the [Holy] Spirit, and the [desires of the] Spirit are opposed to the flesh (godless human nature); for these are antagonistic to each other [continually withstanding and in conflict with each other], so that you are not free but are prevented from doing what you desire to do.”

And this is our battle. This is what we must choose against.

Fighting the flesh, and other people’s stuff, and comparing. You may have something nice, but compared to someone else it’s not that nice.

What is it right now you are coveting? What do you have your eyes, and heart set on? How does God feel about that?

Most importantly what are you going to do about it?!?

Seeking Godly contentment. His Direction for our lives.

Now these “needs” these desires, these things that we covet – doesn’t necessarily mean stuff, but many times for men it is about posing. Our own masks, and insecurities. Big trucks, muscles, and showing our strength.

Show your real strength by following God. By doing what He has called you to do, going where He has called you to go.

Show and exercise your real strength by standing up for what’s right in spite of the consequences.

Use your strength to getting rid of the crap in your life, because you need that space for others.

Ultimately that is what our strength is for – others. We can’t do that if we are obsessed with ourselves, or stuff, or things that are not what God wants for us.

Face your fear, embrace the danger, trust God, and GO.

When we don’t – we are placing all we have in things that are false, and empty, and pointless, and meaningless.

It is all tied to where we find our own value as men. It is not in stuff, or achievements, or our job, or position, or place in life. It can only be found in Him.

Our value is Christ alone. We are what He says we are, and nothing else matters period.

Close with call to action-
I love practical teaching, and taking action. So here is something you can do this week to find your strength-

FC door man – “If you don’t know what you want, you end up with a lot you don’t.”

Men don’t leave here without knowing what that is. Know what you really want, and what God wants for you. Don’t leave here without a commitment to actually do something about it this week. Write it down if you need to.

Because “If you don’t know what you want, and what God wants for you – you’ll end up with a lot you don’t.”

Everytime you have a opportunity to go, to move forward in your journey as men, and don’t – you rob yourself. And you rob others of the good things that God has given you for the benefit of others.

So this week, look for those opportunities. Maybe it is an opportunity that has to do with the one thing you have been focusing on the last few weeks? Look for them. Those opportunities to go after the good things that God wants for you. Those times where you may normally shy away – don’t and press into it full force. Ask for God to help you, and He will.

“For I know the plans I have for you, declares the Lord, plans for welfare and not for evil, to give you a future and a hope.”
‭‭Jeremiah‬ ‭29:11‬ ‭ESV‬‬

It’s amazing to me how many times we hear a verse like that, and then don’t do much about it. So don’t. Go after, and fight for the good things that God wants for you.

Wrap up- what’s next?-
That just about wraps up our episode. I hope you found some value it. It is my honor serving you here. Our next episode we will finish up our FC series its going to be a great show. You wont want to miss it. Also, be sure you catch any episodes you may have missed in this series and continue your journey with me here.

Keep in touch with us here at Anvil. Check us out at Looks us up on FB, and Twitter @AnvilMen. Shoot me an email at, let me know what you think of the show. This show is only possible because of people like yourself supporting it. If you go to our website and click on the Give link to see how we can help us impact the lives of men.

Know that I pray for you regularly. You know what I am going to pray for you right now. God, I ask that you would help us to be who you made us to be. Reveal to us the good things you want for us, and help us to go after them wholeheartedly. Help us to not covet, and to not be owned by the stuff You have given us. Help us to get all of our value from You, and You alone. Thank You for Your help. Amen.

Don’t forget you are God’s adopted son. He choose you. He wants great things for you. And loves you more then you can imagine.

Men – Don’t give up. Don’t give in. Continue to fight the good fight, and find your strength.

I am David with Anvil ministries. May your journey continue…